What's Up

    Lesbians and gay men are as different from each other as
any two groups of people could be. If it were not for friendships,
there would be no relationships cross-linking the two groups at
all. Each could exist, with little difference in customs or behavior,
without the other. But, the one thing we do have in common is
that we are homosexuals. Ah yes, that Biblical abomination. We
would dare find peace with our minds and bodies and rejoice in
that we are human, as opposed to suffering a lifetime of broken
identity and meaningless anguish...

    I've known several people who could not come out at all. All of
them had something else on which to blame their lack of straight
sexual interest. That is a sad and lonely thing to do, and I'm sure
it is very painful. One must have a lot of self confidence to brave
the unknown experience of unacceptable sexuality. "What will I
become?" When I was young, I had no idea of what a gay man was.
I was afraid. We've all been there. All I can say is, if I knew what I
know now when I was 14....... MAN! I don't even want to think
about it!

    If you are out at work, you are a very lucky person. You know
how good it feels to be 24-hour-a-day-Gay! But many of you know
that if you came out at work, your relationship with fellow
employees would soon become intolerable. To you I would say, I
know the feeling, and I'm sorry you have to deal with it. Try to find
a job where you can be out. For many, that is impossible, because
of the time investment you now have in your work. Sometimes gay
people can do more good for the cause of all of us if they are left in
the "unknown" category. These people can carefully express
opinions that sway beliefs of people who would never listen to a
known gay.

    Which brings me to a point I'd like to make right now. When it
comes to describing all of us, collectively, we use long, run-on
phrases like "The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender,
Transsexual Community". There are five adjectives, that have
little to do with each other describing one noun, "Community"
that means we are all the same! Add to this that it makes no
mention of the many wonderful and excepting people who enjoy
our lives with us that are straight individuals (my friend Mike is
the gayest straight person I know, and I really love him) and I
think we've really missed the boat with this stream of thought!
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